Can You Reconnect Too Much When Networking?

ID-10081286How many times do you try to reach out to connections you make at networking events?


Two times?

Three times?

Ten times?

Many people believe that you can’t reconnect too many times. They think that the more they put themselves in other people’s faces, the higher the chances they will end up getting what they need and want.

Unfortunately, that is not the case.

When you try to reconnect too many times, you become a bother. People will not want to connect with you because you end up being another task on their never ending list of to-dos.

So how do you know how many times you should reconnect with someone?

The simple answer is…

Reach out two times, if you don’t get a response, don’t try again.

The reasoning is the first time your message may have gotten lost. The second time, it’s hard to say it got lost two times. And even if it did, it wasn’t meant to be.

Two times is the perfect number of times because it shows people you are interested in connecting, but you’re not hounding them. Two times means that you reconnected and then you’re checking in. That’s it.

Spreading Out the Reconnects

How far apart the reconnects matters too. You shouldn’t call two times in one day. That means you are too anxious. You shouldn’t even try to reconnect two days in a row. You should have at least three days in between your reconnects. Some people do their first reach out on a Monday and then another one on Friday. Some space them farther apart, but that doesn’t seem to be effective. People will often not feel as though you’re not on the ball if you end up waiting too long to reconnect.

Now that you’ve read this, you’re probably feeling guilty for reaching out too much. It’s okay. You can’t go backwards, but you can go forwards. That means, take the information you’ve read here and apply it for future connections you make at networking events. Before you know it, you’ll be getting more call backs and using your networking as you should – to grow your network and business.

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